To nurse my child was always for me the most obvious option, without wanting to justify me: the maternal milk is indeed whatever is said about it, the healthiest feeding for a new-born baby and introduces quite a lot of advantages: it is completely free, does not require preparation, is always within reach hand! And I was frankly fascinated always by the picture of the allaitante mother: this good to be of the baby who suckles and the serenity of the mom which encircles its offspring with affection by this carnal contact It is an instant favoured between the mom and her baby, a very strong emotional link that joins them. Since I knew that I was pregnant it was for me therefore an obviousness: I will nurse my child. But until when? This did not have importance: anyway, as far as possible!

I occasionally researched in the field but without staying there really. The midwifes of motherhood also rather well communicated on subject. My spouse also reinforced me in this choice but which was firm and final in any case. And I was therefore relatively prepared! at least in theory When our baby was born I therefore carried him right away to my breast. Way was not much assured but the baby was determined! She, needed training not at all! It is during this the very first suckling that I realised that this is not going to be easy thing! And that I am not going to enjoy this serenity, this calmness, which fascinated me so much for the time being! It was necessary to acquire first of all as they say " the helping hand " ! The first reappraisals arrive then. Especially since they feel rather fragile psychologically when they become mom for the first time. It is hormonal he parried They are afraid of badly to make, and they feel guilty almost systematically when they feel clumsy. Comments and looks curious for circle really do not contribute to trust one during this trial period. Not easy therefore at the beginning feeding requires a period of adaptation and of training, which for my part lasted about 3 months! The beginning is really laboured only to find good position, because it is necessary, to favour lactation, to alternate both breast, it is therefore necessary to find good position to the left but also to the right! The cushions of feeding sound improved for the debutantes! After 4 months of exclusive feeding, and once I began having a suspicion of insurance, the first comments of circle ring out: Then you began diversification? You give him soups? You are not going to nurse him all his life you know? It is going to be necessary to feed her in a more substantial way if you want that she grows properly and makes her nights! In more hushed up ace air exhausted! I cross it During this period it is also necessary to think to take back an occupation (at the beginning I resumed at half-time, during 6 months God is rented). What represents an additional stage difficult to cross! The separation from his child is painful; not only physically because of milk rises but also psychiquement by the lack of this carnal contact with his child. Even if in my mind and I am sure in that of many moms, feeding is the natural continuation of the pregnancy, everybody does not picture himself, or forgot, how much it is difficult to reconcile feeding and job. He was anyway no way to break this contact with my baby who is so necessary but first of all so natural. The link which created during nine months between us and that continues beyond this period of gestation is indescribable It is an instinctive and so loving gesture at the same time. He is out of question to lose it already, to wean my child from 4 months only and to substitute my milk for some other lacteal product " Maternis ", not especially to follow recommendations of the WHO but for the good to be of my child who contributes obviously to our ease parents. D autant plus que l on se sent plut t fragile psychologiquement quand on devient maman pour la premi re fois. C est hormonal parait-il On a peur de mal faire, et on culpabilise presque syst matiquement lorsqu on se sent maladroite. Les remarques et les regards curieux de l entourage ne contribuent pas vraiment avoir confiance en soi pendant cette p riode d essai. Pas facile donc au d but L allaitement n cessite une p riode d adaptation et d apprentissage, qui pour ma part a dur pr s de 3 mois ! Les d buts sont vraiment laborieux rien que pour trouver la bonne position, car il est n cessaire, pour favoriser la lactation, d alterner les deux seins, il faut donc trouver la bonne position gauche mais galement droite! Les coussins d allaitement son parfaits pour les d butantes! Apr s 4 mois d allaitement exclusif, et une fois que je commen ai avoir un soup on d assurance, les premi res remarques de l entourage fusent : Alors tu as commenc la diversification ? Tu lui donnes des soupes? Tu ne vas pas l allaiter toute sa vie tu sais? Il va falloir la nourrir de mani re plus consistante si tu veux qu elle grandisse convenablement et fasse ses nuits ! En plus tu as l air puis e ! J en passe Pendant cette p riode il faut galement penser reprendre une activit professionnelle (au d but j ai repris mi-temps, pendant 6 mois dieu soit lou ). Ce qui repr sente une tape suppl mentaire difficile franchir! La s paration d avec son enfant est douloureuse ; pas seulement physiquement cause des mont es de lait mais galement psychiquement par le manque de ce contact charnel avec son enfant. M me si dans mon esprit et je suis s re dans celui de beaucoup de mamans, l allaitement est la suite naturelle de la grossesse, tout le monde ne s imagine pas, ou a oubli , combien il est difficile de concilier allaitement et travail. Il n tait de toute mani re pas question de rompre ce contact avec mon b b qui est tellement n cessaire mais avant tout tellement naturelle. Le lien qui s est cr pendant neuf mois entre nous et qui perdure au-del cette p riode de gestation est indescriptible C est un geste instinctif et tellement tendre en m me temps. Il est hors de question de s en priver d j , de sevrer mon enfant d s 4 mois seulement et de substituer mon lait un quelque autre produit lact maternis , non pas sp cialement pour suivre les recommandations de l OMS mais pour le bien tre de mon enfant qui contribue de toute vidence notre bien- tre nous parents.

It is sure, to nurse and to work request some organisation, but as regards the happiness of baby I am not type to opt for solutions of easiness; having no problem of lactation, I opted for the breast pump, and woke up very often at night to nurse my daughter at her request. Not obvious to stay in form with unsettled cycles of sleep, a home life and professional to reconcile but I fitted! And I did not have interest in being suffering because the doctors in general cannot treat on the moms who nurse it is a thing that I taught in my I depend am not often sick but I sometimes had recourse at some point to specialists; it was in concrete terms about a dermatologist, about an endocrinologist and of ORL that I had to consult on recommendation of my general practitioner (for myself). They all encouraged me to stop feeding completely during my treatment. They applied perhaps the principle of precaution?! But their arguments were not very persuasive! The possibilities which presented themselves to me were the following: either I gave up nursing my daughter who was at this moment a little more than a year old there, who was therefore very big and healthy to need no more my milk, and therefore from this instant I could be medically treated, or I continued feeding and my health deteriorated Nice the doctors! Current milk madam, as it was said to me, is very close to some maternal milk! And your child is already very big and needs no more your immunity Bla bla bla! Et votre enfant est d j bien grande et n a plus besoin de votre immunit Bla bla bla !

These medical opinions are really sure shared by the close circle which is anxious for you naturally! This is enough now! She is big the baby nice oxymore thank you!! It happened that they say to me you are strange ! As though I was degenerate, almost mad! I was mildly made understand Listening, more hushed up go on, more this risks becoming pathological this furious energy to want to nurse your child! and it with a condescending tone and movable eyes and then to transmit information to the neighbour: And you do not know what, she always nurses!!! Stop??!! well yes, well it is well, but ok But ok what?? I told myself Finally in short, anyhow, my health did not deteriorate, I suffered a treatment during some days, which belonged besides to the final completely compatible with feeding, (this I learnt him much later) but that turned out to be vain anyway. I recuperated all my vitality very naturally and I continue even today nursing my 18-month-old daughter serenely.! Ben oui, ben c est bien, mais bon Mais bon quoi ?? me disais-je Enfin bref, quoi qu il en soit, ma sant ne s est pas d t rior e, j ai subi un traitement pendant quelques jours, qui tait d ailleurs au final tout fait compatible avec l allaitement, ( a je l ai appris bien plus tard) mais qui s est r v l vain de toute mani re. J ai recouvr toute ma vitalit tr s naturellement et je continue encore aujourd hui allaiter ma fille de 18 mois sereinement.

I work whole days from now on but I supported the suckling of morning and that of the evening. At bedtime my daughter claims besides her dose of milk of her pretty little voice: suckled! mom suckled ! How can I deprive him of it? I really wonder what is the trouble to nurse his child crossed 6 months recommended by the WHO? Who can say it? The pediatrician of the baby is favourable to "long" said feeding and besides encouraged me always in this sense! Then to those who ask me, or who ask the daddy to when I intend to nurse our daughter they answer them: as far as possible!

Nad ge H.
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